If you do what you have always done.....

If you do what you have always done, Tony Robbins says, you will get what you have always gotten.  Here's a thought about change.

Commitment to Practice

Igniting our Sleeping Brains

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I went to lunch with some friends and one said, .

“I haven’t gotten one of your newsletters for a while”

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An email arrived reminding me

how much they enjoy reading the newsletters.

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I have been in Cape Cod, Martha’s Vineyard, and Nantucket,

eating lobster (the kids started to count how many)

and finally felt compelled to come home before I grew a claw.

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I only hope that I can make it as

profound an insight for you

as I have found it to be.

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I’ve chosen the psychology of choice

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Is choice a personal preference

we simply shrug our shoulders

and act on,

or does it actually

create changes in our brain?

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No one wants to hear

that they’ve been making themselves unhappy

by their choices.

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I acknowledge that without control of our choices,

we can actually become sick…

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But that control,

whether actual or perceived,

should lead to a point

of finalizing the choice

and then committing to that decision.

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Closing our eyes,

Holding our breath

and hoping that we chose the right path

isn’t enough

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We need to commit to it.

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Then actual physical changes in our brain take place

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Commitment is the tough part

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It requires self-discipline,

turning from the world of options

that are so tantalizing.

and moving forward through the

difficult valleys of learning a lesson.

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From choice,

we develop focus

and eventually feel happier.

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Who would have thought –

happier

because we excluded the world of options

and took

a singular path toward a goal.

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66% of Americans seem to misunderstand

the psychology of choice

and unfortunately

choose to make themselves unhappy

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If I offered two options for lessons.

Option 1:

A month of violin lessons.

At the end of the month,

you can choose to move to harp, piano or cello.

or stay on violin

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Option 2:

Violin lessons committed to for a year.

The cello, harp and piano are shipped out

to needy kids somewhere in some far off country…

so there isn’t a chance for you to change your mind.

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Most of us like choice and freedom

so 2/3 of us would probably want

the wiggle room

and choose Option 1

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…..beeeeeep…..

wrong answer if you want to be happy.

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It appears that if you have two open-ended options,

floating elusively before you –

requiring no commitment

you won’t put yourself into either one,

you won’t develop a mental or emotional bond.

with either choice

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Then, when you move onto

the harp or whatever instrument you choose next

it will just be another uncommitted decision.

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There is no closure to your choice.

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You stay poised,

teetering in the uneasy world

of not being on some path toward a goal.

You walk away from the experience

no happier

and no more fulfilled.

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Argue the point

in your mind

for a while

See if there doesn’t seem

to be a glimmer of truth in the concept.

(grass is always greener scenario I guess)

Those who say…..

“I’m in”

start to believe their choice

was actually the best choice.

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There is a physical change in the brain

that makes the choice the best.

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Do you remember …. when you were dating

and your date blew their nose in front of you……

you took it as a sign that they weren’t the one for you.

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But when your husband or wife does something on the

‘not so cool’ chart

“they’ve got a heart of gold,

don’t ruffle the feathers”

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I won’t go into it,

but they can prove

through scans of the brain

that there is a change.

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I think it’s a powerful stamp on the value of commitment.

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How will this change the way you take or offer music lessons?

I hope with the understanding that being

‘limited to your commitment’

there is actual freedom,

to move on

toward a goal…

opening a world of opportunities

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When you become accomplished

goals are in your path

you’d never have a hope of reaching

if you were still

peeking through the door,

sticking your toes in the water

with your ‘shoulda, coulda, woulda’s

and your ‘if only’s’.

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Think about that and

ignite your mind!

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